Luke 10:38-42
July 17, 2022
Chef
Ina Garten, also known as the Barefoot Contessa on the Food Network, once told
a story about the first dinner party she ever hosted. She was still a
relatively young bride, a novice cook, and she thought that it would be a good
idea to make all of her guests individual omelets.
As she described it, that good idea
turned out to be a terrible one. Omelets aren’t a hard dish to prepare, but
they take a few minutes, even for the most experienced of cooks. Ina realized
too late that making one for everyone at the party meant that she was trapped
in the kitchen for most of the evening. That was the worst part about it, she
said. Ina never got to spend any time with her guests. Instead, she stood in
front of the stove all night, while her husband visited with their friends. At
that moment, the Barefoot Contessa made a solemn vow. From that point on
whenever she entertained, she would make sure she could prepare things ahead.
She would never again ignore her guests while she worked in the kitchen all
night long. Ina said she would make sure that she could prepare most of her
meal in advance, and then she’d have maximum time with her friends. I’m not
sure her show is even on the Food Network anymore, but if you have ever had a
chance to watch it, you know that she has been true to the vow she made. Every
recipe she offers, every entertaining idea she gives, is about what can be done
well before the guests arrive. When the guests arrive for the meal, she is
there with them, present and in the moment.
I doubt Ina Garten would have
described herself as a Martha or as Mary. But at her first dinner party, she
was doing what we might call a “Martha”. She was in the kitchen, cooking,
working, distracted by making the omelets for her guests, and unable to enjoy
herself, her friends, or the food she was working so hard to prepare.
I will confess to you that I
struggle with this passage from Luke. I struggle with what seems to be the very
derogatory tone in Jesus’ voice when he speaks to Martha. And if that derogatory
and dismissive tone was not in Jesus’ voice, then it has been added over the
years by interpreters and preachers of all sorts. You know the tone I’m
speaking of, the one an adult might use when speaking to a naughty child.
“Martha, Martha, you are worried and
distracted by many things; there is need of only one thing. Mary has chosen the
better part, which will not be taken away from her.”
Martha wasn’t a child. And she
wasn’t breaking any rules either. In fact, she was doing what was expected of
her by her culture, by the society she lived in, by the men who had gathered at
her home expecting a meal. Martha was doing exactly what she had been taught to
do her entire life, exactly what she was told was her duty to do. Hospitality
was paramount and being hospitable took work. Martha was doing the work of
hospitality.
But Mary was not. In any other
situation, Mary would have been seen as shirking her duty. And I can imagine –
actually, I think I know – how Martha felt. I can feel the tension and stress
rising in her. I can feel her growing frustration and anger. I can hear her
slamming utensils and cookware around as she worked. And I can see her catching
glimpses of her sister, sitting at the feet of Jesus, and not
helping.
I struggle with this passage because
Martha too often gets a bad rap, and Mary gets all the praise. Many years ago a
very wise woman said to me that if all the Marthas of the church sat down, the
church would fall down shortly thereafter. And nine years ago, when I was
attending the CREDO conference for ministers, one of our faculty members
preached on this passage at our worship service. She stood before the communion
table and commented that all of us gathered there were used to standing before
the communion table, calling people to gather for the sacrament, calling people
to remember Jesus as they partake of the bread and the cup. But then she said,
the next time you stand before this table, you also need to remember the person
or persons that prepared it, set it, and made it ready. That person was
probably a Martha.
Debi Thomas wrote in a commentary
about this passage that she was frustrated with Jesus not about encouraging
Martha to do what was really necessary, but in not pushing the disciples
gathered to step up and help so Martha could do what was really necessary. As
Thomas wrote, Martha’s anxiety did not come from a vacuum. Her anxiety and
worry go back to all the expectations laid on her, the expectations that I
spoke of earlier. Thomas said that she would have been thrilled to read that
Jesus told Peter to go chop the vegetables, and for James to knead the bread,
and for Andrew and Bartholomew to set the table. After all, Jesus was already
going against the tradition by allowing Mary – a woman – to sit at his
feet as a disciple would. What would the next 2,000 years have looked like,
asks Thomas, if Jesus had pushed the men to do something so counter-cultural as
well?
But that didn’t happen, or if it
did, it has been redacted from this story, so we must deal with what we have
before us. And what we have before us is Jesus telling Martha, not as a parent
to a child, but maybe as a teacher to a disciple, that she has missed the
point. She is worried and distracted by many things, but the only thing
necessary in that moment was being with Jesus, sitting at his feet, and
learning from him. That was the only thing necessary.
According to scholarship, the root
of the word for worry is “strangle” or “to be seized by the throat.” The root
of the word, distracted, is “a separation or a tearing apart of something that
is meant to be whole.” Literally, Martha is being strangled by her
responsibilities and her distraction is a fracturing or a fragmenting of who is
supposed to be, who she is called to be.
Does that resonate with you as much
as it does with me? I know that sometimes my worry and my anxiety make me feel like
I can’t breathe. I can’t make my body take a deep and restorative breath. I am
too worried, I am too anxious, too strangled by my fears and anxieties and
expectations to fill my body with the oxygen it requires. And in turn, my
worries and anxieties, much less my responsibilities render me so distracted
that I don’t feel whole. I just feel like bits and pieces of my self are being
flung hither and yon.
Strangled and torn apart. Worried
and distracted. Martha was being strangled by her worries and torn apart by her
distractions. She needed only one thing, and that was to be with Jesus. She
needed only one thing, and that was to be single-minded in her pursuit to sit
at Jesus’ feet and learn from him.
When I was a student intern in a
church in Virginia, I was invited by the men’s bible study and fellowship group
to give a presentation about my trip to the Middle East. They had a monthly
dinner, and each month they would invite a special guest to speak. I was that
guest. I worked hard on my presentation. I had a whole slide show put together.
I brought souvenirs from my trip. I was excited to be their guest and to share
stories of my travels.
And when it came time for the meal,
I got up and started to help with bringing food out to the tables, and making
sure folks had what they wanted to drink, extra napkins if they needed them,
etc. The pastor, Greg, who was my supervisor during that year, came over to me
and said,
“Go sit down. You were not
invited here to serve or to work. You were invited here as a special guest. It
is the men’s responsibility to serve you. Not the other way around.”
Feeling like I needed to help was
ingrained in me, but on that night, it was making me worried and distracted. I
had lost my focus. But I did what Greg said to do. I sat down. I allowed myself
to be served, and when it came time for the presentation, I was on it. We had a
wonderful evening, and I left grateful for the opportunity and grateful for
Greg’s reminder not to be distracted by many things, but to be true to my
purpose for the evening.
It seems to me that Jesus was not
reprimanded Martha but reminding her. Martha needed to be reminded of what her
purpose was in that moment. Yes, hospitality was important. Her work was of
great value, something that we still forget, but there was only one thing
necessary and that was being with Jesus. There was only one thing that would
release the grip of worry on her throat and make her whole, and that was to be
with Jesus. That was her single purpose at that moment. That was what was
necessary.
What distracts us? What keeps us
torn apart? What worries keep us strangled and gasping for breath? What keeps
us from the feet of Jesus? Because it is at his feet that is the foundation for
everything else we do. It is sitting at the feet of Jesus that gives us the
strength and the courage and the hope to stand up again and do the work that we
are called to do. Sitting at his feet is what makes us whole.
Thanks be to God for the Marthas in
our lives and for the Marys. Thanks be to God that all of us are necessary and
all of us are loved.
Let all of God’s children say,
“Alleluia.”
Amen.